Like everyone else.
People think introverts are loners who want to live in the woods by themselves. As an introvert, I answer: no, no, no!
We are humans too. And humans are a social species.
Thousands of years ago, we needed a tribe to survive because sticking together meant they were stronger.
Today we don’t need a tribe to survive anymore, but we need social interaction to feel good, exchange experiences, and enjoy life.
Introverts love alone time. But we need to get out of our house to socialize every once in a while.
Talking with people is draining our energy, but it can also be fun and make us happy.
Why even introverts need people:
- we need support
- we want to have fun and be happy
- we need social interaction to live longer
- life is way more enjoyable when you share your happiness
Humans need support
We can’t do everything alone. I thought I could, but it was lonely.
Every successful person you see on social media or TV doesn’t get to their success alone. They had support and connected with people who gave them opportunities.
Even though most things have moved to the internet or gotten done automatically, the world is still being run by people.
Every business, hence every success, depends on people.
But not just in business and hard times: share the good times too, and you’ll get even more support.
Support doesn’t need to include money or help during bad times.
Support can also mean just listening to problems. That’s one tiny moment that can make a huge impact on someone else’s life.
Don’t try to do life alone!
It’s not just more fun to share it but also more successful.
We want to have fun and be happy
The most fun memories of my life are with people. I’m not so fun being alone at home by myself.
So why do we think we need to do life alone?
Let’s get out and have fun!
- have fun meeting new people and sharing stories
- have fun doing an adventure
- have fun dancing like no one’s watching
- have fun going to the movies with your loved ones
- have fun traveling and exploring new cultures
- have fun playing board games with friends
Whatever you love to do… do it more often with your loved ones or new people!
Live longer with social interactions
Studies researching the blue zones (and documented on Netflix) showed that people living there longer are also socializing a lot.
- They meet for board games, doing sports, or music together.
- They are sharing a community, supporting each other, and also keeping each other young.
- They have fun!
- They move more!
Don’t you want to live longer too and have fun doing it?
That’s a good reason to go out and meet new people, no?
As always, it needs some balance, especially for an introvert who needs to take care of their energy too.
Introverts gain energy alone, and social interactions are draining.
So with the right balance that fits for you you can get the longevity advantage from socializing and be able to have energy for your priorities.
For me, the maximum number of networking events (but depending on how many people, how loud, and how many new faces) I want to go to weekly is around 3.
If it’s a daylong event, I probably need a longer recovery than from a board game evening with my friends.
Find your balance!
Share happy memories
Sharing happy memories is doubling the happiness.
I know this from experience. Those happy memories can be draining for introverts, and still be full of joy and memorable.
One of my best memories is my high school graduation holiday with friends. We were celebrating an achievement together at a beautiful place with a great party.
It was so much fun.
Was it draining? 150%!
Was it worth it? 150%!
And afterward, I slept for a week.
Sharing happy memories is a gift life gave us and let’s do more of them!
Let’s find those people to be happy with!
As an introvert, I found talking with people exhausting and way out of my comfort zone. I was really shy as a child. I was afraid of buying food at lunch break. I felt misunderstood, not heard, and overwhelmed. So I felt lonely at big parties.
But because I’m my ambitious self and I moved to a city where I didn’t know anyone: I decided to meet new people.
It was really awkward at first. And I pretended to be an extrovert, but I was actually rudely interrupting people. I was afraid of not being interesting enough. I realized I no longer wanted to fake it and practiced being myself.
This isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about embracing your quiet strengths and connecting with the right people.
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