Everyone says, “consistency is the most important aspect of success.” But within that — there’s a critical piece missing…
I wrote a story about consistency being the secret to overnight success. And that’s true. If you consistently work towards your goal every day, you will get that famous “overnight success”.
But there is a crucial step before working consistently towards your goal. First, you have to figure out what you want in life, what your goal is, and what your values are.
If you don’t think about those things first, there is the possibility that you will be doing the wrong thing consistently.
We are all getting influenced by other people, how we grew up, and our environment. So if you don’t fix your own goals and values first, you could have a goal you don’t want. You could work towards a goal from someone else. You can be consistent and you could reach that goal, but you will lack the motivation and you will be unhappy.
“The person we believe ourselves to be will always act in a manner consistent with our self-image.”
— Brian Tracy
Focus on figuring out your goal and values
To prevent you from consistently doing the wrong thing, you should take a step back and think about what you want to achieve in life first.
Do you know the saying that you can consistently climb the ladder but if the ladder is leaned on the wrong wall then you will still not get where you want to go.
So before you do anything, you should check first if the ladder is leading to where you want to go. Your goal shouldn’t be based on other people’s dreams, opinions, or expectations. What do you want?
If you don’t know right at this moment. That’s okay. Then go out of your comfort zone and try out new things! Think about what you liked doing as a child, and do that again.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
Seek help if you need it
If you are stuck on the ladder to your goal, maybe you will need help from someone else. Other people have different opinions and different views of things and the world, maybe you need a change of perspective.
Sometimes other people see you completely differently than you, so they could sense something that is bothering you, which you don’t know yet or you don’t want to admit yet.
Talk to a person you trust. Or talk to a psychiatrist. Just talking to a stranger can sometimes do wonders.
“Ask for help. Not because you are weak. But because you want to remain strong.”
— Les Brown
Repeat the first step after a while
Life is changing. You are changing. So your goals and values are changing too. So once in a while take a step back and evaluate your life.