I’m very bad at taking risks. I’m shy.
Well, that’s what I’m always telling myself. But I’m also able to change myself by telling myself something differently.
Why not? Why shouldn’t I talk to that guy I like? I’m self-confident. I love myself.
We are the biggest critics of ourselves. We are very harsh on ourselves. Have you ever thought about that?
We would never say those things we say to ourselves to our friends or families.
I know from myself that I’m thinking and telling myself really mean things I would never tell anybody else. But then on the other side every time something goes wrong or not as planned it’s the fault of the others, not mine. Suddenly I think high of myself again and that I’m the best. That doesn’t make any sense but that’s how our minds work.
We don’t want to take responsibility, but we blame ourselves for that.
Before we can change ourselves and live a happy life, we need to love ourselves. See yourself as your best friend who you can’t get rid of. You have to live with yourself, so make your life easier by accepting yourself and be a friend to yourself.
You are not your thoughts. We humans can change our thoughts about ourselves.
Get Ready and Take Risks
And then when you’re ready, go out and take risks. By taking risks you’re learning so much for your life and about yourself. By not trying you already failed. But if you try there is a possibility to success.
You like a guy or girl but you’re too afraid to talk to him or her? If you talk to that person, there is a chance that you will succeed and get a new friend or relationship. But if you don’t do it, you will always wonder what would have happened and you already failed to get a new friend or relationship.
The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks. – Mark Zuckerberg
Do you get what I’m trying to say?
I know it’s hard to take risks. I feel with you. I still have the same problem and I always blame the mobbing in my childhood for it. But it’s my problem and it’s my decision to get influenced by this incident. Now I’m making the decision to not get influenced by other people’s actions.
Maybe I’m repeating myself but all of us are so focused on ourselves that we don’t even notice when somebody else is doing something strange. Well, maybe we will notice it but we will forget it a few moments later and focus on our own problems again.
Nobody cares what you’re doing. That sounds bad and harsh, but it’s the truth. We all are focused on our own problems and decisions.
So, take risks because nobody else would notice it anyways.
You miss 100 % of the shots you don’t take. – Wayne Gretzky
Books that helped me get over my fears and taking more risks (I love audio books so I listen to them on repeat):
- “The Courage to be Happy” by Ichiro Kishimi
- “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***” by Mark Manson
- “Why not?” by Lars Amend (German book)
- “Personality Isn’t Permanent” by Dr. Benjamin Hardy
and many many more. You can take a look at more recommendations here.