I recently read that up to 82% of people have imposter syndrome.
What is this weird syndrome? According to Wikipedia, it’s the doubt in your skills, talents, or accomplishments. It’s the belief that you don’t deserve your luck or success, and you have the fear of getting exposed as a fraud.
According to me and my experiences imposter syndrome is a feeling of not deserving the position and success I currently have. Sometimes you have the feeling that you don’t fit in here and that everyone around is much smarter than you. You have the feeling that you don’t know anything.
I often had the feeling before exams: I studied a lot but right before an exam I feel like I don’t know anything. The good thing is: this was never the case, I always had good grades despite the feeling of not knowing anything.
“I still have a little imposter syndrome… It doesn’t go away, that feeling that you shouldn’t take me that seriously. What do I know? I share that with you because we all have doubts in our abilities, about our power and what that power is.”
— Michelle Obama
Reading that 82% of people have the syndrome changed my perspective of the world. I always thought that I am one of the only ones who feel that way.
I’m introverted and as a child, I was told that I could never be successful because I’m quiet, and I felt that way and experienced it.
One of the reasons I didn’t speak was the fear of getting exposed that I don’t know anything.
In spite of my imposter syndrome and my environment telling me that I’m too quiet to be successful, I had the ambition to go out into the world and get the life I want.
1. Get Your Mind To Believe In Yourself
If you have imposter syndrome, then you don’t believe in yourself. Let’s change that!
The right mindset and a positive relationship with yourself are a big part of a successful life.
Start with small steps to trick your mind into believing in yourself. You plan on cleaning the bathroom today and you will do it. By doing things you plan on doing you tell your mind that you can be trusted with finishing tasks.
Today you will study one topic of your exam. And then do it. Afterward, you can ask someone to test you by asking questions about the topic and you will see that you know the topic.
Do these steps each day and you will show yourself and your mind you can be trusted and you know things.
2. Work Towards Your Goal And Your Dream Life
By doing small steps each day you will also work towards your goal. Think about your dream life.
How would you describe your perfect day?
What would you do if this is the last day of your life?
What would you do if you only have 6 months to live?
Take your time. Mediate. Be creative. Think impossible.
Afterward, think of the next small steps you can take to get closer to your dream life.
By having a goal and working towards it day by day consistently, your mind will see your ambition too and knows that you want it.
You work on yourself and by doing that the imposter syndrome will shrink because you experience the hard work you put in and the consistent growth.
“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.”
— John Maxwell
3. Don’t Tell Anyone About It And Don’t Listen To Them
I made the mistake to tell people about my writing online plans. They don’t get it.
“How do you make money by tweeting every day? You don’t get paid for that.”
“Your English is not good, who would read that?”
People don’t understand you, and they don’t have to. It’s your dream, it’s your life.
The most important thing: don’t listen to them and their advice.
Your parents don’t know anything about making money online. They have never made money online, so don’t listen to their advice on this topic.
Money is a huge topic these days, and there is also a huge difference between generations on how to make money, how to save money, and how to spend money.
Don’t listen to them. If you want to become rich, then don’t listen to your poor friends who spend a lot of money on cars and iPhones.
Don’t judge them or unfriend them either. Accept different opinions and views and do your own thing.
4. Accept Challenges
What helped me a lot in growing and becoming the person I am today is accepting challenges when they are coming my way.
I’m an introvert and I would never say that I want to be the head or leader of anything because that takes a lot of responsibility, speaking in front of people and also managing a team. But I knew that first, I had to grow to be able to achieve what I want to achieve, and second, my student organization didn’t have anyone to lead them. I accepted all the challenges that will come my way and I will improve with them. I was afraid. I was nervous as f*ck talking to the head of the university.
That’s how you grow and become successful. By accepting challenges and growing a lot. Be brave and say yes to tasks that are a little beyond your skillset.
Just do it!
“Whatever makes you uncomfortable is your biggest opportunity for growth.”
— Bryant H. McGill
5. Fake It Till You Make It!
The sentence is not everyone’s favorite but it helped me do tasks I thought I will never be capable of.
Having a presentation in front of all the heads of the university wasn’t something I imagined was possible a few years ago. I was always really nervous and I forgot words and I would hate the feeling of everyone’s attention on me. But I knew I had to do it, no going back and so I faked some confidence and went all in with my passion for this student organization and just spoke from my heart.
The imposter syndrome is usually about faking it and the fear of getting exposed, but by faking confidence or knowledge you will actually gain experience and knowledge to grow, and then you made it and you know that.
At first, you will feel like a fraud. Accept it and make it to your advantage and give everything to learn and gain the knowledge you should know.
“Acknowledge your fear, understand it, and then get comfortable existing in a space with it.”
— Allie Dattilio
At every new experience, you will have imposter syndrome. That’s ok. Accept it and grow beyond it.
Think of how much you already accomplished in your life. Be proud of that.
Never think of the long way ahead but instead take a look at the steps you already took in your past to get here.
Be proud of yourself. Just do it and challenge yourself!
Thanks for reading! 🙂
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